Conversation Guide

Why This Matters: Trans people across the globe are facing growing attacks on their rights, identities, and access to care. While Ireland remains broadly supportive, we cannot take this support for granted. A small but loud opposition is pushing for policies that exclude and harm transgender people. Our relationships—with family, friends, co-workers, neighbours—are powerful tools for change. These are the spaces where hearts can be softened, minds can be opened, and solidarity can grow.

Why Lean Into Relationships:

• People are more likely to shift their views when they hear from someone they know and trust.
• Conversations grounded in love and shared values can cut through fear and misinformation.
• Most people aren’t hateful—they’re unsure or uninformed. Your voice can help them make sense of what they’re hearing.

Lead With These Values:

• Everyone deserves the freedom to be themselves.
• Dignity, safety, and respect are for everyone—no matter our genders, race, or background.
• Our communities are strongest when we stand together.

Messaging Do’s:

• Start with values. “I care about this because I believe everyone should be free to be themselves.”
• Share stories or feelings. You don’t need to have all the facts—your care and empathy matter.
• Speak to the persuadable middle. Reinforce the values they likely already hold.
• Be patient. This might be one of many conversations. You’re planting seeds.

Messaging Don’ts:

• Don’t argue to win. You’re building understanding, not scoring points.
• Don’t repeat anti-trans arguments—even to refute them.
• Don’t expect people to shift instantly. Stay calm, and stay grounded in care. Take breaks, breathe, and come back to the conversation if you need to. 

Sample Talking Points:

• “A woman is someone who lives and identifies as a woman — that includes trans women. Our job is to protect people’s rights, not police their identities.”
• “Women—cis and trans—deserve spaces safe from gender-based violence. When we narrowly define ‘woman’, we risk excluding anyone who doesn’t fit a narrow mould.”
• “Decisions about young people’s healthcare should be made by families and doctors, not politicians. All kids deserve care and support.

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Final Thought: Talking to the people in your life about trans rights is one of the most powerful things you can do. Stay grounded in your values. Don’t aim to win debates—aim to open hearts. We’re not alone in this. Most people want to do what’s right. When we lean into love and connection, we bring others with us.